In our times, the sign of a good character, and the highest degree of Jihad-ul-Akbar, is to carry other people’s bad characters and to tolerate them. We have not been ordered to refuse people, but to make them more pleased. We are living in a time when people may say anything and everything; you must be patient with them, and excuse them, always without fighting. You must know that people are ill with their egos. If you are claiming to be doctors, you must excuse them. If you are on the way of Prophets, you must help them and be tolerant of them. This is the highest degree of good manners.
You must not forget a goodness that has been done to you. If someone does a goodness for you, and afterwards you become displeased with that person over something he said or did, your displeasure, your forgetfulness of that person’s good deed toward you is from bad character. You will be like a cat. You may give it meat one hundred times; but if you leave it just once, that cat will make objections and complaints to Allah, saying: ”He left me hungry!” It is good manners not to argue with people, even if you know that you are in the right. Arguing extinguishes the faith.
Who is a real Muslim? One who doesn’t harm anyone, either with his hands or with his tongue. People are safe from him. This is a wide entrance to Islam, and it is for all people.
01.04.1999